Some of you may or may not have known, 2 months ago, I released my 4th musical project by the title of “22”. It is pretty much an artistic musical of my life story in 15 songs and its free! I put in all that hard work for you guys to enjoy some good music with no cost.
I have a song on that project titled “MYOB” an acronym for “Mind Your Own Business”. It is made on an Afro-Beat type (West African style) instrumental, and what I did with that song was throw some important gems that I believe would be beneficial to the young male millennial. Though the song may seem as a party song, the advice you can receive from this track could be very life-changing and I would like to break it down for you to see where I am coming from. I will only highlight and speak on the advice I was trying to push forth.
You looking for a perfect lady/ (stop that x3)
but all you want to do is be lazy/ (stop that x3)
You’ve got to do better (x 2)
Be strong/ but yet be gentle
You never need a reason to wrestle/
take your time and never mettle/
never think its ok to settle/
we are one (x2)/ I will never run
in all things
Chale Mind Your Own Business (repeat)
Verse 2 (rapping)
Life is something that goes up and down/
you need to focus on how you getting out of your town/
chale mind your own business/ make am go they own way
try to do your own thing/ even if its lonely/
find your identity/ It’s not gonna be easy/
but if you know the Lord/ you won’t have to copy the TV/
cause he who is in you is greater than who is in the world/
im just tryna bring a rev
olution to these boys and girls/
have a plan/ and grown in your maturity/
never be a beggar cause they’ll treat you like a charity/
never follow heresy/ cause doctrine is important/
if you ever cuff a chick never let her get an abortion/
invest in your friends/ cause some of them are heaven sent/
they the ones who pick you up when you never make any sense/
which is common/ common/ I never do this often
im just tryna make a change before I end up in a coffin.
1. You looking for the perfect lady? STOP THAT.
There are too many young men around that say they haven’t found the perfect wife for them. I hate to break it to you, but the perfect woman does not exist. Social media lied to you and everyone else who thinks like that. Instead of shopping for women and seeing which one best suits your wants, put your effort and energy in becoming and being transformed into the image of Christ, and being watchful, standing firm in the faith, acting like men and being strong as Apostle Paul stated in (1 Corinthians 16:13). This will make you a better man and husband altogether.
No one on this earth will ever give you the satisfaction that Christ can give to you. If you are looking for that from your spouse or any human being, you will be highly disappointed because like my brother S.O said: “Only Christ can truly satisfy”.
Now Men, if you are married, you will realize you have not married the perfect spouse, but God helped us find a GOOD thing, and we can’t complain (Proverbs 18:22; 19:14). Stop looking for the perfect one as if you missed her, but rather enjoy the blessing the Lord provided.
2. Be strong/ but yet be gentle
A few weeks ago, I was blessed with an opportunity to speak at an amazing youth conference called Yuhglo (Youth Under God’s Glory). My task was to speak to young men, and the LORD really put in my heart to hit on the identity of man. This generation is in such an identity crisis that they either don’t know who they are or they tend to forget. A lot of men don’t know if they are meant to be soft, or tough and this leads to a bunch of males living aimlessly. I believe we are in of need young men who are courageous (Deuteronomy 31:6; Psalms 27:1) and willing to fight for what they believe. I remember hearing a Christian Rapper state “you think being meek is weak/try being meek for a week.”
We most definitely need men who are strong. Throughout the Bible it talks about men who are physically strong (Samson) and emotionally and spiritually strong (Abraham, Elijah, Peter, JESUS etc..)
The bible also does talk about being tough as David was, the Bible shows that he had never lost a war before. But being tough does not mean that you are to be insensitive, and that’s where the struggle lies with Kingdom men. There must be a balance, and it is something that we must work on continuously.
“We need men in the church who are strong, dependable, courageous, and tender.” – Constantine Campbell
3.Find Your Identity
Us, young men MUST understand that our identity is hidden in Christ and nowhere else. I remember when I was young, I used to watch movies like “Get rich or die trying” by 50 Cent or “American Gangster” with Denzel Washington, and these were the type of movies that influenced me. And that was only so because I didn’t know who I was in Christ. Once I understood more about the perfect man, my heart was convicted to be more like him. We must understand that we must be anchored in Christ, and that is the FIRST step to fulfilling your destiny, your purpose, and your calling.
We must move from just knowing about Christ to knowing him in a personal relationship. Jesus Christ was the ultimate man, and every kingdom man should be striving every single day to be like him. Since we are image bearers of God, LIVE LIKE IT. WALK LIKE IT. TALK LIKE IT.
4. Have a plan/ Grow in your Maturity
When I was talking to the men at Yuhglo, I told them about the 3 hoods that I discovered.
Malehood – Which happens by birth
Boyhood – Dependent, immature and not yet responsible
Manhood – When you are responsible to take of someone or something
We see plenty males who appear to be in manhood, but they are still in boyhood, making no effort to progress in anyway shape or form. It was said that back then, you would become a man at 21, then it started shifting to later years such as 30, and it seems in our generation, it’s as if it is 40 years old now. The Men are decreasing and the boys are increasing.
You must have a plan for your maturity, be a visionary man, know what you want, know how you are going to get it; if what you are trying doesn’t work, use a different method. Kingdom Men are willing to fight for what they want and will never give up until they achieve it. Put away the sins of your youth and GROW UP. Apostle Paul said “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” – 1 Corinthians 13:11
What is your Maturity Plan? Because getting older does not mean you will mature.
5. Never Follow Heresy/ Doctrine is Important
Be a man who has studied to show himself approved (2 Tim 2:15) and don’t follow every wave of doctrine that you come across. It truly does take the holy spirit to understand some of the deep mysteries of the scriptures so he’s the only person you can put your trust for interpretations. I love theology and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it but my plead with you is, as you study more and more, don’t let it become a god to you. Be strong in the word but also in your spirituality and intimacy with the holy spirit. Follow ONLY TRUTH, because a half truth is a whole lie. Be sound theological, spiritual men, who can defend what they believe at all cost!
6. Invest in your friends.
I am only 23, but throughout my life I’ve had about 4 close friends that are all my brothers in Christ. (if you really want to know them click this video link here) These brothers are the ones I go to when I need to talk about any and everything, and I encourage young men to have at least two or three brothers you can have accountability with, be vulnerable with etc. True male friendship is hard to find in our generation but it’s necessary, we all need people who can strengthen us in ways our spouses and girlfriends can’t.
The only thing is, since we are human, understand that man can and WILL disappoint but that doesn’t mean you have to shy away from the very thing we all need and were created for, which is fellowship. A mentor of mine once told me “everyone needs a Paul, a Timothy, and a Barnabas”. If you want to find out specifically what that is, check my last article called “The Power of Accountability”.