Having a female friend is not the main issue, and if you had them coming into the relationship they should be almost considered as sisters; but I will start off by saying this, if your best friend is a female and she’s not your wife; though I have only been married for a few months, I’m pretty sure I have the right to say there’s something wrong in this picture. No woman should be closer to you than your spouse. The bible does not forbid friendship between man and woman, but as a godly man, there are moralities of wisdom that one should heed. IF you do actually have female friends as a married man, there MUST BE some distance and boundaries put in place. If you are a woman with a sound mind I think you would side with me on this. If a man’s best friend is a woman who is not his spouse, he is most likely to share his problems and deep feelings with her which may cause a dangerous emotional attachment; and we can all agree that though adultery is a terrible sin against God and your spouse, emotional cheating is up to par with this because emotional attachments are EXTREMELY hard to break.
Here are a few things to remember as a married man:
- You are in a covenant that should be guarded with your life. LOVE your wife as Christ LOVED the church and be willing to lay your life down for her.
- We are in a generation where the institution of marriage the way God created it to be is under attack, so you must be willing to fight DAILY for a successful marriage.
- In your marriage, you are the leader, and a leader is someone who uses his influence to empower individuals to achieve a common goal; and in your marriage your common goal is to be conformed to the image of Christ and have a taste of heaven on earth as you do life together the way God intended it for you.
As a married man, avoid putting yourself in risky situations with a woman that is not your wife. I don’t want to be so particular, but even being seen in public with another woman can give the wrong impression to other people. (Prov 22:1) says a good name is better than riches, and as a godly married man, you want to hold to a good name for yourself and your family. When we look at the bible on the topic of temptation, it mentions nowhere to try and fight temptation, it actually says to FLEE or run away (2 Tim 2:22, 1 Corinth 6:18) Fighting temptation becomes a huge issue when the heart is desiring for the lust of the flesh. So, my advice to young or old married men is to stick with your real best friend (the amazing woman you married) and FORSAKE all others, they ain’t worth it bruh.